A Perfectly, Un-Perfect, Wedding

Time is winding down, in less than two months we will be married. It feels like a long time coming, we've been engaged for close to a year and a half, though we only started actually planning with a date in mind last Spring. 

One thing I've learned in this process is *unsurprisingly* wedding planning is hard. Seriously. 

I was never someone who was dreaming about a fairytale wedding growing up. Sure, sometimes we'd pretend to get married in the backyard to my friends younger brothers- but who didn't do that? But the actual dreams of what my wedding would look like never came. 

So, when Jay & I got serious about getting married it was hard to come up with a vision when neither one of us had ever given it much thought before. Before our engagement we had actually pretty seriously planned an elopement to Vegas where we could get married by an Elvis Impersonator. Once getting married became an actual option we realized maybe having a wedding with our friends and family around would be more meaningful.

We then found a farm with horses, cabins, campfires and bring your own drinks that seemed perfect. Quickly I remembered my dad is deathly allergic to horses, so it was not an option. It seemed crushing, but it actually would have been quite a bit more money than we were prepared to spend. Plus, a farm outside of the city presents a few more complications in arranging transportation, sleeping arrangements etc. 

We followed that idea up with a classy historic building in Halifax, that was gorgeous, but again a little pricy and also a far more lavish feel than we envisioned (by this point we had started to formulate a bit of a vision). We also toyed around with having our wedding on campus at our Alma Mater, but logistically that was a nightmare so we quickly abandoned that.

Which led us to the venue we actually chose, a restaurant on the waterfront in Halifax. We are able to have to whole ceremony there and it's close to anything you could need for a wedding. 

Once we settled on the venue things started to fall into place, I quickly found my dress, we decided on flowers, centrepieces and other decorations. 

We set to work on many DIY projects (pro-tip, finish one before you start the next!) and have been chugging away evenings and weekends trying to get everything done. 

Someday we will get our living & dining rooms back. Hopefully!

I've had no less than three bridezilla meltdowns, one where I was about ready to cancel the whole thing. Luckily with some patience from Jay and lots of Boy Meets World, I was able to act like a reasonable grown-up again. 

What I've realized through all of this, is that it doesn't matter how much you plan every little detail things aren't all going to look perfect. The centrepieces might not all be identical. Something might be forgotten, things might run late, or *gasp* it might rain. 

But, what does matter is that when we crawl into bed that night, we will be married. We will have just spent a beautiful day with those nearest and dearest to us, eating, laughing and of course dancing. Rain, frizzy hair, dropped cupcakes, none of that can ruin the beauty of getting married. 

I know everything can't be perfect (really, perfection is only an idea anyway) but I am ready to tackle whatever adventures and curveballs life throws our way. 

Update: I've added this post to the Funday Monday link-up so if you stopped by from there, let me know in the comments and I'll return the love! 

Keep Smiling :)