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About the weather. About my family. About someone the people I am talking to have never met.
It is NEVER malicious in nature, but I think sometimes it can be perceived that way. I just don't filter my thoughts and start speaking so fast that I've said too much before I even realized I was speaking.
During my vacation at home this happened a lot. I'd get with old friends and just start talking and talking. Forgetting to ask about their lives and just rambling on about mostly inappropriate things.
I hopefully recovered alright by acknowledging it, at one point I said "I'm digging my hole deeper here" another time I said "I literally have no idea what I just said" and it was true.
As this post might indicate, I have no control over my thoughts sometimes and I just say way too much. But my intentions are good.
Lately I've been trying to be a better person, to be more mindful and kind with my actions and words. These rambling slip-ups where I lost control made me feel pretty insecure and led to a few sleepless nights.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for by sharing this information with you, but it felt like some honesty was needed around here for a change. If only I could share more here and a little less in real life!
Have you struggled with talking too much? Are you a rambler? How do you keep your thoughts in check and avoid saying too much? I would love to hear your suggestions- I really need them.
And in case any of my lovely 'real life' friends are reading this, I promise I will try and ramble less next time we chat!
Keep Smiling :)
Okay yes. I'm the same way sometimes. I get carried away and the next thing I know I've said something I probably shouldn't have. It's never caused me any real trouble--but I'll think about it for days to come wishing I'd just kept my mouth shut. So glad I'm not alone in this friend <3
ReplyDeleteI was just thinking about this last night! It's not quite the same, but I noticed in my small-group meeting that I was doing basically all the talking, even if it wasn't totally relevant. I just need to fill silences! Argh. Something I will be working on as well!
ReplyDeleteHah, I'm quite the same. I'm awkward in person, because I really find it difficult to make connections with people I don't feel connected to (am INFJ - it has explained a lot to me, about my behaviours and my way of being). So I either (depending on my mood) ramble like you (because I also, sometimes, panic if there's silence!) or say nothing and appear really stand-offish (which I'm not. At all). My other option is to launch in to some really deep question, hoping to get something meaty to talk about, and then I see the 'what the bloomers?' look in people's eyes and I know I'm alone. It's difficult. [and has caused me endless sleepless nights too - it's hard being me! BUT now I know my personality, I'm slowly becoming more accepting of my 'traits' and, through this acceptance, becoming much more compassionate with myself and much more loving of myself.....I am what I am]
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